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06/06/2014
A new study claims to have found the secret to a happy marriage – by thinking your spouse is more attractive than they actually are.
According to Dr Viren Swami, from the University of Westminster in London, was speaking at the Cheltenham Science Festival, he explained: "When you are in love you idealise the people you love. You rate your partner as more attractive.
"It is essential to evolutionary psychology. You think: 'I'm doing okay for myself'.
"It generally makes you feel better to think you are with someone who is incredibly attractive, it makes you happy and boosts your self-esteem. If you are not idealising your partner it probably suggests there is something wrong.
"You can assess how stable a relationship is by how much they idealise their partner. It almost indicates how much love there is in the relationship."
Dr Swami's theory has been supported by a 2011 Dutch study. This involved 70 couples who were asked to rate each other and strangers, based on their appearance. The findings were published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships and revealed that higher ratings were evident among partners.
Those behind the research said a reason for this is because partners tend to enhance each other's virtues and ignore their faults – this is a "positive illusion" that makes commitment seem more attractive.
By explanation, the team at the University of Groningen said: "In order to sustain a sense of security, partners often weave an elaborate fictitious story that both embellishes a partner's virtues and minimises his or her faults.
"By means of these positive illusions, partners may enhance their sense of security, overstate the case of commitment and derogate alternative partners, thus stabilising their long-term bond."
(JP)
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Secret To A Happy Marriage Is Revealed
A new study claims to have found the secret to a happy marriage – by thinking your spouse is more attractive than they actually are.
According to Dr Viren Swami, from the University of Westminster in London, was speaking at the Cheltenham Science Festival, he explained: "When you are in love you idealise the people you love. You rate your partner as more attractive.
"It is essential to evolutionary psychology. You think: 'I'm doing okay for myself'.
"It generally makes you feel better to think you are with someone who is incredibly attractive, it makes you happy and boosts your self-esteem. If you are not idealising your partner it probably suggests there is something wrong.
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"You can assess how stable a relationship is by how much they idealise their partner. It almost indicates how much love there is in the relationship."
Dr Swami's theory has been supported by a 2011 Dutch study. This involved 70 couples who were asked to rate each other and strangers, based on their appearance. The findings were published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships and revealed that higher ratings were evident among partners.
Those behind the research said a reason for this is because partners tend to enhance each other's virtues and ignore their faults – this is a "positive illusion" that makes commitment seem more attractive.
By explanation, the team at the University of Groningen said: "In order to sustain a sense of security, partners often weave an elaborate fictitious story that both embellishes a partner's virtues and minimises his or her faults.
"By means of these positive illusions, partners may enhance their sense of security, overstate the case of commitment and derogate alternative partners, thus stabilising their long-term bond."
(JP)
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